Climb the mountains and get their good tidings.
– John Muir
Yet another recent teen suicide got me thinking about self esteem and the difficulty of keeping it in the face of bullying and unfair blows in life. Why do some people with the most difficult and sometimes horrifying life stories still thrive and smile and live life as if it were a gift each day? I read about some of the lives of such resiliant people and found they had something in common. They never gave up believing in themselves and they never let anyone else tell them who they were or what they were worth. They all felt that something valuable came out of their experiences even if the experiences themselves were unfair and undeserved. They became inspiring people; gifts to those who surround them. They are beautiful to others in a way that external beauty can never rival. We can be like them too, if we try.
Easier said than done, yes, but not impossible with effort and the right attitude. You will cry, you will get angry and these feelings should not be repressed because they provide the contrast that allows elation, peace and happiness to exist as well. It is the attitude you have toward your sadness, pain and difficulty that is key, not the emotions you feel.
If you view hard times as depth of life experiences that will enrich your character and wisdom, you may find that you will not descend into the abyss of self pity from which a paralyzing depression will hold you hostage indefinitely. Instead you will plow through those difficult times, holding on to the belief that there is a way out, if only you cling to hope and keep on trying. It’s the never giving up part that gets you through and the emotions that help you heal over time. Don’t try to rush it, but as you feel the emotions, always speak to your inner self positively. Be your own cheerleader.
Understand that emotions come and go and difficulties come and go. Hold on to the solid core of knowelege that you will survive and eventually thrive. Cherish yourself and believe in yourself no matter what others think of you and no matter what is going on around you. In so doing you will walk through stormy seas as if they were smooth as glass.
Maybe it’s actually the difficulties in life that serve us best. A beautiful sculpture must undergo being carved, otherwise it is just an ugly block of stone. Grasp this, and you have life by the tail. Wake up and cherish each day as a chance to perfect yourself a bit more.
A beautiful life indeed.